need some advice found out today...

[BonzCNC]

I was in the same boat 20 years ago. I did not stay with the mother but ended up with the best little bastard in the world. I was shitting my pants way back then, but WAY worth what I got in return. Life is hard, man up-seriously. And, as already stated, you should have stuck in her ass

[sandman658]

I'm sure one of these fine thumpers on here will adopt that egg.

[Monty Mikho]

Tell her how much you love her. Tell her you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Tell her a baby is something you want to have with her in the future but you don't feel the time is now. Show her a lot of love and plan for a baby in the future. Then drive her to the clinic, have the procedure done and take off before she gets out..

[OOLD GEEZER]

Originally Posted by Monty Mikho

Tell her how much you love her. Tell her you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Tell her a baby is something you want to have with her in the future but you don't feel the time is now. Show her a lot of love and plan for a baby in the future. Then drive her to the clinic, have the procedure done and take off before she gets out..

Now there's the Monty we all know and love!!! lmao

[steakandracingfuel]

whatever you do, do not marry her because she is pregnant. my cousin did this and guess what? it ended up being the guy's kid she was with right before him. if you have started seeing other people then continue to do so. make it clear to her that you will be there for her and will help out with whatever. but...until a DNA test is given at birth do not sleep with her again. she also needs to go to a "DOCTOR" and not those damn places and have the pregnancy test done again. if you are not upfront with her about you seeing other people, pregnant womens hormones will get the best of them when they think they are being dumped and being pregnant and you are cheating on them. shes tickled to death over this and clearly she already has it in her head that you two will be together.

time for a serious sit down and tell her not to be bullshitting you and it is time to confess to anyone she had slept with or has been sleeping with. tell her not to make you drag her ass on the Montel show.

[Steve]

Stay the phuck away from her... Dont provide no support at all untill you know 99.99% sure its yours... You might not find out untill after the baby is born, but dont do anything untill you know for sure. Dont assume anything she tells you is true..

If the kid is yours then congrats and enjoy it.. Kids are a blast and you will never love anything more in your life..

[Pancho]

Originally Posted by Monty Mikho

Tell her how much you love her. Tell her you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Tell her a baby is something you want to have with her in the future but you don't feel the time is now. Show her a lot of love and plan for a baby in the future. Then drive her to the clinic, have the procedure done and take off before she gets out..

..o man...EEEVIL.

[Ruff-in-It]

Originally Posted by turbof-100

ya thanks guys..its jus shit man if we were together it would be different you know but shit has happend between us shes has her fun with her "friends" and i have mine..i went through 5 years of shit with this girl and she never changed..if thimes and things were different then id say hell ya!! but theyre not i wana have a kid someday jus i dont think its her i wana have one with..amen monty!! lol

How much 'fun" did she have with her friends? As earlier post said - DNA test. Then you know if you even have any responsibility in this.

[Michael588]

You're both @ fault here, Your child is the only innocent one here with NO SAY SO in the outcome, LOVE your child regardless of what happens between you & this chic.........You've both had your fun, Now it's time to grow up & be responsible for your actions & quit feeling sorry for yourself. Ask your Mom how she feels about your thoughts on this issue.
Just out of curiosity what's your age?

[christiandseller]

I know we are like a family here.i say that to say this.man the fuck up.stop rolling around in self pity.be a man.the best thing that ever happened to me were my kids.was I ready?no way.but who is?you can't really see it now but it will all be clear to you soon enough.you don't have to thank me.just be a father & not another dead beat sperm donor.

[Paul Stud]

well, first off, don't come looking for unbiased advice on here, as has been stated not going to be even leaning anywhere near objective.

second, if she wants to keep it your fucked, so whats the point of asking what you should do?
your choices:
1 get married

2 be involved with raising but don't marry

3 dont be involved but pay

4 dont pay and take your chances

you obviously don't want it, so your not in a position to be a father. for some people seeing it does not make you superdad and not everyone considers it a miracle. some folks just can't start calling an accident a miracle and believe it, others can.

[bruduce66]

Sell it On E-Bay!!!!!!!!!!! And next time Tell the chick yer with to gobble the gew!!!

[Mark O'Neal]

Let this be a lesson to you youngsters.

If you're going to have breakup sex with your girlfriend....have it with her best friend.

Women use children to manipulate men.

[JCH]

Your kids are the biggest headache you'll ever ENJOY!

I have 3 kids with my first and only wife. THey are 7 and 9 years old. THere are times I want to pull my hair out, but when they hug your neck and ask you to tuck them in its all worth it. I can't imagine life without them.

THat being said, I had my 20 year reunion last year. I found out that a girl I knew got pregnant right before she went into the Airforce. I did some research and found out I have a 21 year old. He has already done one tour in the war. All the things I missed. Now I am getting to know him.

At least you know there is a possibility he/she is yours. One option you have is to tell her that if the baby is yours you'll manup and take care of her/him. Doesn't mean you have to marry her. When the baby is born do the DNA test. THen you'll know for sure. If you keep saying I'll wait till I ready for a kid or financially able to have a kid you never will.

Sorry for the soap box speech.

[ten5nova]

Originally Posted by turbof-100

Im leaning towards montys advice ahaha..but seriously guys thanks for the input and by the way im 25 the reason why i say "seel the truck" is because i spend oddles of money on it and being that the doctors visits meds and all that pre baby stuff theres no money going towards it..the trucks close to getting done also she has a project car as well too that she wanted mini tubed on a drag radial 04 gto but besides all that..dont get me wrong i love kids i have a 3 year old nephew thats always with me in the garage banging on shit and working and that makes me so happy i guess only time well tell..

My .02: Keep the child, keep your hot rod, get a job, and live life like everyone else on this site. Realistically, selling your truck isn't going to solve much. You will not be able to get every dollar out of it that you have put into it, and you'll just be pissed off at yourself after you sell it. If you have to park it for a couple years until you get back on your feet, so be it. I've got cars on the back burner right now, no $$$$, and I don't have kids. But I know people that do have kids, that aren't millionaires, that run way more expensive race cars than your truck. You can make it all work, you just have to cut some corners in your budget, be happy to work for whatever anyone will pay you, and like was said before, learn to like mac and cheese, Top Ramen, Hamburger Helper, etc.. It has taken me a lot of years of my life, but am finally getting it trough my thick skull, life will probably never be exactly the way you want it. You just have to make the best situation out of what you're dealt. Good luck dude!!!!!!!!!